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A Survivor's Perspective Post Katrina

A Personal Perspective from a Resident of N'awlins

A Personal Reflection of Avery Buras, Ph.D.

 

Introduction

Let me introduce myself before I get along too far. My name is Avery Buras. I was born and raised in the New Orleans area. I have lived in the Ninth Ward (a few blocks from Holy Cross High school), Uptown (while my father attended Tulane University) and on the West Bank (immediately across the river from Uptown New Orleans). My first year of college was at Loyola University in New Orleans.

I currently live in Mandeville LA, which is across Lake Pontchartrain from New Orleans. I am employed as a psychologist on an adolescent unit at a state run psychiatric hospital here in Mandeville. We get kids from all over the state, but the majority of our kids come from the New Orleans metro area. Before Katrina, we had 23 long term (average length of stay 15 months) beds for dually diagnosed adolescents (a developmental disability and a psychiatric diagnosis) 16 adolescent beds, 9 Children’s beds, and services for 24 out-patients. Post Katrina, we no longer have outpatients and have combined the Children’s and Adolescent beds to a total of 8. The 23 long term beds have not been changed. Are there kids still in need? Are they still out there? Yes and Yes. We get calls from parents and mental health providers looking for acute beds on an almost daily basis. However we are short of Psychiatric RN’s. Many have moved out of state and have found better paying jobs and safe places to live. Even if many wanted to return, there is no place to live. Southeast Louisiana simply does not have enough livable homes.


My Life Experience in New OrleansNew Orleans Even though I live in Mandeville right now, I consider myself a “hardcore” New Orleanian. I still eat my red beans and rice on many Mondays. I know my son eats them every Monday at his school. It’s my favorite day to join him at school. Most lunch counters in the New Orleans area still serve red beans and rice on Mondays. This tradition goes back a long way. Red beans take a long time to prepare; so many families ate them on Mondays so that mom could start them on Sunday. Our fast-food culture has changed this somewhat, but we New Orleanians still love our red beans. We also just love food period, especially seafood. Shrimp, fish, oysters, crabs, soft shell crabs, crawfish etc... I could talk for days about food but you can find this information all over the web (start here http://www.nomenu.com/). You just need to know that the reason people from New Orleans go out to eat lunch is so that they can sit around and plan what they will have for supper.

For most of my life I was only aware of 2 seasons, Football Season and
Mardi Gras Season.

Football Season.
During football season we become preoccupied with the Saints, LSU, and for the few and proud, Tulane. And if all three won, it added to the subjective experience of our Red Beans on Monday. More money was spent on a Monday after a Saints win than on a Monday after a loss. In the United States, the most segregated day of the week is Sunday, except in the Louisiana Superdome during Saints home games. We have major racial differences and inequalities in this city. However, the Saints have always been one thing that every segment of our community could rally around. Right now the Saints are a sore subject for many of us. Not that New Orleanians no longer love them anymore; quite the contrary. For most in New Orleans the Saints are living, breathing members of our family. One thing that I’ve learned as a psychologist is that all people, especially children and adolescents want to be connected to their family regardless of the cost. They still love family no matter what, even when they feel that they have been abused or abandoned by those family members. That’s how we feel about the Saints, specifically the ownership.

Mardi Gras Season
You cannot understand New Orleans without understanding Mardi Gras, and you cannot understand Mardi Gras without understanding New Orleans. Two things need to be kept in mind about Mardi Gras and New Orleans: First, not every person from New Orleans gets into Mardi Gras. Many leave the city and head to Orlando or Colorado during the weeks around Fat Tuesday.Second, Mardi Gras is the most misunderstood aspect of New Orleans’ life and culture. I grew up going to Mardi Gras parades with my family. My son went to his first parade at 7 months. We had boiled crawfish and barbequed every type of meat imaginable on the parade route. Or we would stop at Popeye’s Fried Chicken on our way. We stood around and talked, told stories and laughed. We threw the football on the neutral ground (http://www.crescentcity.com/dictionary.htm) climbed trees or played tag as we waited for the parades to pass by. It was a time of year when most came out of their homes and hung out on the street. The vast majority of the time people had fun, even though once the parade began to roll we fought over beads, trinkets and doubloons. We never had block parties, we had Mardi Gras.Did people drink? Um, well of course. To this day, I fill an ice chest up with beer a coke or 2 and maybe one bottled water (I use it to wash my hands). I put the ice chest along with a couple of lawn chairs into a Radio Flier Wagon and bring it out to the parade route. If you ever see me out there, yes you can have one, that is a given. A word of advice: If you ever come to New Orleans and go to a parade away from the French Quarter, do not offer anyone money for a beer from their cooler! You will piss them off. If you offer them a long bead or stuffed animal you will likely drink for free for the rest of that evening. Just bring some with you next time.Did people get naked in these sections of town? No. I do not remember seeing this until my freshman year at Loyola University (1984) when I walked into the French Quarter with a bunch of other students. Being 18, I loved it. The statements “Long Beads” and “show your tits” took on a life of their own. Now that I am 40 and have a 5 year old son, I do not have a whole lot of use for the Quarter’s version of Mardi Gras. But I know the college aged folks love it and I have no problem with it. It’s part of the event. However, this is where the majority of arrests occur for public nudity, public intoxication, drugs and fighting. It is also where the news camera’s can be found. Most of those who are getting naked or getting arrested are from out of town.I prefer to be with my family and friends for Mardi Gras. Just keep that stuff in the quarter and ya’ll have a good time and be safe. And to you, the media who cover New Orleans, come down to the corner of St. Charles Ave and Peniston, head out to Metairie, the West Bank or to the Northshore, we’ll give you a beer from our ice chest, some home cooked food, and we’ll fight you for a pair of cheap beads. You will get to know us and I’m sure you will love us, even though you may think we are strange. And I guarantee you that you will have a good time with us or your money back.Obviously I am one of the ones who think Mardi Gras 2006 must happen.

At this time, the people of New Orleans desperately need each other. We need the help of the world too, and we ain’t too proud to ask. We need to hang out again, to feel an ounce of normalcy even though there ain’t much that approaches normal these days. We need to walk out to the parade route, boil some crawfish or cook a hamburger. If you do not understand this, I apologize. We just need each other, bad. Those of us who are still around miss you guys who have temporarily or permanently moved. The hardest part about having Mardi Gras this year will be that there will not be enough places for people to stay and some will be left out, one thing that has never happened before.
Mardi Gras has so many traditions and diversity that it is impossible to innumerate. However, here are just a few links that will give you a flavor of this city and it’s unique celebration. (Mardi Gras Parade with hundreds of dawgs.)

http://www.barkus.org/ Download the song “Iko, Iko” by the Dixie Cups and then go to
http://www.mardigrasindians.com/
http://www.whereyat.net/index.php/133
http://www.gaymardigras.com/parades1.htm

Riding the Storm Out.

I rode out Hurricane Katrina at my former house in Mandeville. I was supposed to evacuate with the patients but was unable to do so because of family reasons. However, I was expected to be with the patients as soon as I could join them. I had no idea what I was in for when I stayed. The Head of the Psychology Department at the hospital was supposed to answer phones during the storm to let family know where their children and family members were. Once the powers that be realized how bad it was going to be, they removed everyone from the hospital and shut the gates. My boss was unable to get back into New Orleans at that time and stayed with me.

I was not worried about storm surge (I’m far from the lake) nor wind since the house was new. What I was worried about was 1 lone pine tree. Based upon the direction of the wind and the fact that it was the only tree, I was worried that it would fall on the house. Well guess what, it did. It only punctured a series of holes in the roof. Once the water started coming into the house, I went into the attic and diverted the water and was able to prevent the ceiling from caving in. This occurred about 10:00 a.m. on Monday Aug. 29th.

The electricity went out at 6:30 a.m. on the 29th. I have often heard people describe the winds in a tornado or a hurricane as sounding like a train. Actually it sounds like 3 dozen trains. When a pine tree snaps, it sounds as if someone has set off 500 fire crackers followed by a loud thud and the earth shaking. When we had built our house we had every pine tree removed from our property for this reason. You could still feel the earth shake from trees falling as far as a half a block away.

At about noon on the 29th, the water had begun to rise in my street. I knew that the culverts and drains were stopped up because of all of the debris. I got into my truck with a rake, drove around, and unplugged the drains. By 4:00 p.m. we went outside to assess the damage. It was unbelievable. Mostly huge pine trees down everywhere. Houses literally split in half. Two houses we saw each had 4 trees on them. They were totally crushed. We went up to them and yelled to see if anyone was in there. Thank God they had evacuated. Since we both wanted to get out the next day, we started the chainsaw and began cutting our way out of the neighborhood. Some folks were already out with their bulldozers and chain saws. We had no idea what was going on in Slidell, the Mississippi Gulf Coast or New Orleans. After it got too dark to work, we headed back to the house and came across a couple sitting out by the street with 2 lawn chairs, a Coleman lantern and an ice chest full of beer!

I was able to get out of Mandeville by noon on Tuesday Aug. 30th. Folks had worked all night clearing the main streets. On my way out of town I was able to check on my mother and father’s home to find it safe. Their boat was crushed by a huge pine and a tree was leaning against the house, but all was safe. I drove to Shreveport LA where my sister lives. She had taken in my wife (despite the fact that we are legally separated), my mother-in-law, my son, my momma and daddy (in New Orleans our parents are always momma and daddy until the day we die), and my great aunt. By the way my sister has 4 kids all under the age of 5! It wasn’t until I got near Jackson Mississippi that I was able to call them. I cannot describe to you how much of a relief it was to let them know I was safe.

The eeriest part of the drive to Shreveport was that I did not see any signs of electricity in south LA and all of Mississippi. It wasn’t until I got closer to Shreveport that I felt I was back in the 21st Century. On this drive I was able to pick up radio stations and I began to hear about the water rising in the Big Easy and the devastation on the Gulf Coast. By the way, as kids we had spent many a weekend on the Mississippi Gulf Coast. In addition, I spent my internship year at the Biloxi VA hospital working with Vietnam Veterans, Psychiatric Patients and Chronic Pain Patients. So I do feel a connection to that area. While many on the Gulf Coast would playfully argue with me, the Gulf Coast is a suburb of New Orleans. The CBS (http://www.wwltv.com/) and FOX affiliates are New Orleans stations. I hope the Coast does not get neglected because of the focus on New Orleans. These people are us too.

When I arrived in Shreveport and saw the images on TV. I realized how absolutely lucky and blessed I was. My family was safe and still had a place to live. I also knew that in that mass of people in the Superdome and Convention Center were the parents of some of our patients. Since the storm I have heard many stories and talked to many people who had to “swim” out of their homes. I’ve heard the first hand accounts of people who made it through the Dome. My story does not even come close to the horrors many of these people endured. For those of us who made it through the storm relatively unscathed, we are coping with survivor’s guilt, because we have seen how fortunate we are.


Evacuation to East Louisiana State Hospital in Jackson, LA

I spent Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday nights in Shreveport with my family. On Friday morning (Sept. 2) my dad, my brother-in-law and I got up at about 4:00 a.m. and headed back down to Mandeville. Our goal was to cut down the tree off of my dad’s house, fix his chimney, and cut the tree off of my former house. We accomplished our goal by about 2:00 p.m. My dad and brother-in-law headed back to Shreveport and it was off to Jackson LA for me. What a trip…

Jackson or East Louisiana State hospital is the original psychiatric hospital in the state of Louisiana. http://www.felicianatourism.org/attraction.htm It has a huge main campus and number of smaller campuses. Our patients stayed on a ward that hadn’t been used in about 10 years. The adolescent and children’s units were on one side and the DNP program (Developmental Neuropsychiatric Program) was on the other side. On the first floor was New Orleans Adolescent Hospital (NOAH) which had evacuated from New Orleans. Every employee from NOAH lost everything they owned. Yet they still remained with the kids. As an aside, many of ours kids were not able to contact their families for up to 6 freaking weeks after the storm!

Jackson 1 (name of picture in Avery's picture gallery ) [Avery is giving decriptions of pictures which are available in his gallery which is available by clicking on the link below] is a picture of my bedroom. I was lucky enough to be given a room at an old apartment. When this hospital was first built, many of the staff were given apartments to live in because there was very little housing in the community. I guess it was a fringe benefit. There were 12 of us living in this 3 bedroom apartment. My bed is in the back corner behind the big plastic bin. Mr. Tim (a recreation therapist) slept in one bed and Mr. Shawn (a psychiatric aid supervisor slept in the other). Shawn won the snoring competition, he sounds like Mr. Coffee. We worked from 7:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m. When we left for the day we rolled up our sheets and Travis and Jeff, 2 psychiatric aids from DNP slept on our mattresses. The same was occurring in the other bedrooms. Yes it wasn’t easy and quite frankly is sucked. However, we were able to keep each other sane. We were in this together and we had AC, hot water and a place to sleep. We missed our homes and our families but we knew we were lucky and this would not last forever. Tim or I made Pillsbury biscuits each morning. That helped, a lot. Oh yeah, there was one woman who stayed in our apartment. Suzy put up with living with all of us guys. I’m sure she hated it! Ha! We needed a den mom anyway. Somehow she conned the maintenance men into giving her a bed!

While we were evacuated, the Jeff I mentioned above, well his 90 year old grandmother slipped and fell after being evacuated to a relative’s house. Since I had a vehicle, our administration asked me to drive him to be with her. She slipped into a coma and eventually passed away. She will not be counted as a victim of Katrina but for her and hundreds like her, Katrina was their last life experience. If you stay with that though for just a minute, it is overwhelming. May she, and the others who died while evacuated find peace.

Jackson 2 is a picture of our “shower.” Actually the white bowl hanging on the faucet is our shower. We squatted in the tub and filled the bowl with water and poured it on our head. Instant, “Tupperware Shower”. When we first got there the tub was black! I used up a lot of bleach to make it this shiny.

Jackson 3 is a picture of the room in which our nurses and female staff slept. They “hot sheeted” it too, switching sleeping bags between shifts.

Jackson 4 is a picture of our kitchen down at the apartment. More Tupperware in the sink. Thank God for Dollar General. The administration from this hospital gave us a brand new refrigerator for the apartment. The staff up there did everything in their power to make us as comfortable as possible. We thanked them everyday and they deserve numerous blessings.
 
Picture Album which goes along with this Survivor's Perspective
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Clicking on Avery's Katrina in Louisianna 2005

The captions for these pictures are contained right here in the text. They are also contained on the Photo Album itself but the captions for each picture on the album you must view the picture one at a time but it is helpful so that you get a better understanding and fuller grasp of what you are looking at.

The Eye of the Storm: Empire, Louisiana in Plaquemine Parish

My parents and their families are from small towns about 60 river miles south of New Orleans: Buras, Empire and Port Sulphur. Click here for a Mapquest Map of Empire, LA. (If you have trouble viewing the map use the zoom feature on the left side of screen. The map will eventually appear.)

As many of you are aware, before making landfall on the Mississippi Gulf Coast, the eye of Hurricane Katrina made landfall between Port Sulphur and Buras Louisiana. If you look at the map above, the center passed right over Empire Louisiana. The maximum sustained winds were in the neighborhood of 125 mph. However, Hurricane Katrina was possibly the largest (area wise) hurricane of its strength ever recorded with its eye being estimated at 35 miles across. Hurricane Camille, which passed over Venice LA (just south of Buras) with winds near 200 miles per hour, had a much, much smaller eye.

http://www.angelfire.com/ms3/n5ycn/camille.html
  
http://www.nhc.noaa.gov/HAW2/english/history.shtml#camille

The reason I’ve included this boring information is an attempt to explain to you the pictures that will follow. Even after surviving Camille and Betsy, no one, no one, could have imagined the destruction brought by Katrina. These people had returned to their homes after these storms and for the old timers they had survived other smaller, less known hurricanes.

These pictures were taken on Sunday October 9, 2005. I do not have the date written down anywhere, but I can remember driving back from Empire listening to the Saints game. They got their butts handed to them by the Green Bay Packers 52-3.

Empire 1 and 2 are pictures taken along LA Highway 23 on the way down to Empire.

Empire 3 (and Empire 5) is a picture of where my Great Aunt’s (my maternal grandmother’s sister) house once stood. As you look at Empire 3 you are facing east. You can kinda see the river levee behind the trees. Most houses in the area were built on concrete blocks, 2 to 3 feet off the ground. Before there were levees, people’s properties needed to be protected from high tides. Today, the new houses that are built are at least 15 feet above sea level. I’m sure after Katrina the code may change to 20 or 25 feet above sea level! Anyway back to the picture, you can see the concrete blocks, her front steps and the walkway that went around her home. The rusty metal box to the middle of the picture is an old gas floor furnace. These furnaces sat under the house and were used to heat the entire house. The 2 poles to the right of the picture supported a covered parking area. The white wooden board sticking out of the ground near the poles is what’s left of a hand rail leading into the home. The large cinder block brick structure behind the house was once a support for a cistern. I remember as a kid drinking fresh rain water from the cisterns. The cisterns in this area had to be built above the ground because if they were empty or half full, they would pop out of the ground. The cistern that sat here looked like a giant wooden barrel at least 12 feet high.

As you will see in many of the pictures, most of the vegetation is dead. This occurred because saltwater remained on the land for weeks. In addition, there was a hole in an oil pipeline about 2 miles north of here. The combination of the salt water and oil killed almost everything. However, there is still some green. Life will find a way.

Empire 4 was taken from the same spot as Empire 3 except I am now looking south. There were a number of houses, including one the sat up very high on large white brick pillars. You should also be able to see a bakery and an old grocery story. Both are gone. You can see the river levee to the left of this picture. What is amazing about the landscape is that no one seems to know where the buildings ended up. The concrete and brick supports are still there, but where are the wooden structures themselves? Not even a 2 by 4! The tidal surge is believed to have been close to 25 feet in this area. The levees are in the neighborhood of 20 feet high. If you folks in Destin see a light blue house on your beach, please place it on a barge and send it back to Empire.

Empire 7. When I took my aunt down to see her property, all we could do is look and stare in disbelief. We were numb. Not only that, but we kept getting lost in the place where she has lived for 75 years and I had visited for 40 years! You could not tell where you were because there were no more landmarks. Being the Stoics that we were raised to be as good Catholics, we did not show any emotion until we looked across the street. We where looking for pieces of her home. We both wanted to pick something up and throw it in the back of my truck. We found nothing. Well we did find something, her commode (French term for chamber pot a.k.a. a toilet). She knew it was hers because of the green fuzzy seat cover. What we believe happened is that her house floated across the street and broke up there. Her toilet then sank to the ground next to the road. Remember the tide was 25 feet above normal and her house was riding the waves on top of this surge. The picture is taken looking across the highway toward where her house used to be. You can really see the oil on the ground in this picture.

I believe that our Stoicism can explain some of the resiliency and determination you see in so many of the people returning to the New Orleans area. However, we have learned and will continue to learn how to cry…

Empire 15 and 17. These pictures are of St. Ann’s Catholic Church. It has been turned 90 degrees. The bush that is in the middle of the door (Empire 15) was on side of the church. The wooden structure you see under the tree was a wheel chair ramp into the back of the church. By the way, the only intact structure we could find was the church.

Empire 19. O.K. before it gets too religious on you, look behind my truck. You can see the main highway through town. Well on the other side of the road, you should be able to see about 5 homes. Look at the telephone poles. Where are the leaves on the trees?

---Alright, what’s up with the ass?!---

From what we have learned, this donkey came from across the river where he lived before Katrina. Many farm animals were found miles from their properties after the storm. Also many head of cattle were lost and many were found tangled in the top of trees. http://photos.plaqueminesparish.com/displayimage.php?album=16&pos=29

Somehow this donkey survived Katrina and Rita. It is very skinny in this picture, but we’ve heard that it has been fattened up since. The folks who had been going down there were feeding it. On the day we were there, there was a pile of what looked like dog food on the ground. It was happily eating that meal.

While I am “rigidly agnostic” (Sarcasm and Oxymoron intended) at this time in my life, I believe that some sort of message was left behind here. I believe there is something to the fact that an ass was living in the shadow of St. Ann’s church and somehow had survived the utter destruction and devastation. I believe this now more than ever as I write this section on Christmas Eve.

Empire 18. The inside of St. Ann’s Church. I guess it was the 80’s when the Charismatic Movement took hold in many Catholic Churches. Well it happened in Empire. The priest at the time took down the crucifix you see in this picture. There was a focus on the life and resurrection of Christ as opposed to his death and suffering. No problem with me. Well it really upset some of the old-timers including my grandfather and a number of his friends. I am not sure where they stored this crucifix, but when the priest took it down my grandfather along with the other “old-timers” vowed that they would hang it up again. They did... It’s still there paw paw!

Empire 16. Across the street from St. Ann’s church. You should be able to see 4 or 5 houses here. See more oil at the bottom of picture. Did I mention the smell? A combination of petroleum and swamp juice.

Empire 9, 11, 12. Well this is what’s left of Paw Paw (South LA term for Grandfather) and Maw Maw’s house (South LA term for Grandmother). My mom grew up in this home with her older brother. The red bricks are the front steps to the house. I have a sneaking suspicion that my grandfather did not pay for these bricks. Since he lived through the great depression, I’m sure he took them from a junk pile somewhere and made sure they did not go to waste. Actually I don’t think he ever purchased anything in his life. I spent almost every Christmas until I was 18 at this house. Santa (Uncle Joe Scott) left me and my sister many gifts here.

Empire 12. Back steps to house. Can you find the kitchen sink? The big tree in the middle of the picture is a Live Oak that was planted by my grandfather about 60 years ago when my uncle was a little boy. He said it was about 3 feet tall when he planted it. Hopefully it survives.

Empire 9. Driveway to Grandparent’s house.

Empire 10. My Grandmother who died almost 6 years ago had a little garden out front of her house. She had one of those fiberglass Sears water falls and pretty flowers and a hibiscus bush. The van is from down the street. The reason I took the picture is that my paw paw was a shrimper. I spent a few summers on my grandfather’s trawl boat making CASH! We do not know where this trawl (net) came from, but it ended up in the garden. Another “weird” sign.

Empire 13. Looking North from grandparent’s house. There are 3 homes missing here.

Empire 14. Looking South from my grandparents home. You should be able to see 4 homes in this picture.

The next door neighbor to my grandparent’s home is an oyster fisherman. Empire 21 is what a typical oyster boat looks like. However, they are usually in the water. Some of these boats could hold up to 100 sacks of Oyster on the front. When they would come home in the evenings it would look like they were about to sink. In case you are wondering, the shrimp, oyster and fish are still there. Actually, more so than in years. Although there are no boats to catch them and no wholesalers to sell them too, the fishery has survived.

Over the years this neighbor began to transport his oysters and other seafood to New Orleans using his own refrigerated truck. Well, refrigerated trucks are fairly air tight. Empire 8. This truck floated across the street and ended up in a tree. Notice the tire swing hanging from the tree under the truck. You should be able to see 3 houses in this picture. Can you find the stove and riding lawnmower?

This neighbor is from Croatia. http://travel.yahoo.com/p-travelguide-578016-map_of_yugoslavia-i Many of the oyster fishermen in Plaquemines Parish are from Yugoslavian descent. They fled communism. Look at the names on this list. http://www.louisianaoysters.org/members.php All the names ending in “ich,” are from Plaquemines Parish.

Most of the people in Plaquemines Parish have some sort of French heritage; we also have a lot of Southern Italian, English, German’s and Native Americans. At this point, we mostly all mutts, like the ones you get at the pound. Basically if your country of origin included fisherman, hunters or trappers, Plaquemines Parish was the place for you.

Empire 20. One of many barges left on the Levees.

Empire 22. The Cougar and 2 shrimp boats are sitting up on the levee. The mouth of the Mississippi River is only about 6 miles from 1,000 foot depth of water in the Gulf of Mexico. It is an easy ride for fantastic blue water fishing. With this range in the ecosystem, the wildlife in this area is amazing. It’s some of the best hunting and fishing in the world. The Cougar is a charter boat that works out of Empire. Louisiana’s nickname of the Sportsman’s Paradise comes from this and not from the successful nature of our profession sports franchises. A side note to Empire 21 and Empire 22. The number of boats that were left on land was phenomenal. Most were left sunny side up and dirty side down. If you make me ride out another storm, I think I’ll do it on a boat. They seem to end up safe and on dry land.

Empire 24. Petrovich’s Grocery Store, was Empire’s one and only Grocery store.

Empire 23. Tom’s Place. When I first took this picture I did not notice something that was staring me right in my face. It has always been in front of my face, but I have not always seen it. In fact I’ve all too often taken it for granted but will never take it for granted again. That is the resiliency and determination in these people… I knew this was where Mr. Tom’s restaurant once stood and you can see the lack of fading where the name Tom was once attached to the building. That’s what immediately drew my attention. Tom’s was known for some of the best raw oysters on the planet. People would make the 1 hour trip from New Orleans just to have a couple dozen raw oysters from Tom’s. They were hand picked and perfectly opened by Mr. Tom himself. It was only later that I noticed the table in the front, with oyster shells and a bottle of beer on top of the table that was recovered from the ruins of his restaurant. I don’t know who did this, but they were making a statement. It is a typical means by which these folks choose to express themselves. It will take a while, but these people will be back. You can bet on it.

I believe that I have made it though this storm relatively unscathed when compared to other people. It has been hard. I feel that the dirt has been shaken from my roots but I know things will be o.k. Personally Katrina has had very little impact on my faith in God. My belief in a traditional God, Higher Power, Christ, Yahweh, Muhammad or whatever you name your deity has remained about the same. However, I now have an abounding faith in the people from this region who all seem to have a remarkable faith in their God. If there is a God, he, she or it, most certainly resides in the souls of these people. If you want to meet God come and meet these people, talk to them and pray with them.


Epilogue

 I promised myself that I would try to keep this under 10 pages on MS Word. (I’ve played with the Margins a lot). However, there is one more thing I must include. I went to Las Vegas and Southern Utah from December 10th to 16th. For 7 days I forgot about this stinking place, the place that I love so much. It was good and refreshing to get away. I enjoyed the stimulation of Vegas and the breathtaking views of the desert and the Rocky Mountains. But coming back home was like being punched in the stomach and kicked in the groin. It takes the air out of you quickly. There is a pall in the air right now. It has produced a chronic feeling of depression and low grade PTSD in almost all of us. You don’t need to have been traumatized by the storm to have these feelings. Even if your property or your family were untouched by this storm, it is o.k. to have these feelings. It is hard to not be affected when you are reminded each day of this storm or are in contact with people who have lost EVERYTHING they owned. When you are a mental health provider, people tell you stories that are truly amazing like people hanging on to the top of trees hanging on for their life. This has to effect you! Some call this Secondary Trauma.

We are all haunted by images that will not leave our brains. Here is a picture of one that won’t leave mine. http://photos.plaqueminesparish.com/displayimage.php?album=16&pos=4

Remember my grandfather that I mentioned above, well he made us swear that we would not bury him in a metal coffin. I think he remembered seeing similar sights after Camille and Betsy. Also, he did not want us to waste the money! When I went to Empire that day in October there were dozens of coffins like this all around. By the time we had gotten there, the National Guard had wrapped them in blue tarps so that they would be easy to spot. They had also begun trying to return them to the proper places. One such coffin was opened and a body was found inside. The locals recognized who it was not entirely based upon the body, but based upon the fishing pole that his family had buried with him. Need I say more?


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