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• Stoic
• Nothing seems to bother them and they deny problems
• Very quiet, not verbally expressive
• Easy to get along with
• Easygoing on the surface
• Determined personality, they get the job done
• Intense thinkers, reasonable attitudes
• Organized planners and doers
• Comfortable with tasks requiring conscientious effort
• Perfectionistic and exact in their work
• Friendly and sociable
• Mind their own business, not inquisitive
• Not bothersome or uncomfortable to be with
• Reliable, can be counted on
• Loyal workers who rarely complain
• Rarely get upset or show anger
• Low-key, rarely draw attention to self
• Easily liked and fit in easily
• Adaptable to a variety of social situations
• Dependable workers who rarely cause any concern
• Steady, even-tempered personalities
• Nonemotional, nonfeeling, nonresponsive
• Calm, placid personality
• Rarely complain and tend to get along with others
• Don't feel strongly enough about things to take a stand
• Laid-back behavior and attitude toward others

II. Feelings inside of persons in nonfeeling behavior role

• Not sure what all the fuss is about
• Annoyed at people who become over-emotional or explosive with their feelings
• Offended and hurt when challenged about their lack of response to others' feelings
• Feel as if they are being taken advantage of because of their easygoing nature
• Unsure if they have the right to stand up for themselves; unsure of what steps to take to ensure protection of their rights
• Feel they are being victimized by others who are overly verbal and overly emotional
• Resist being pushed into decisions involving human relationships
• Feel confident in decisions involving logic and reason; feel insecure in decisions involving feelings and emotions
• Feel ill at ease when spotlight of attention is put on them
• Get confused when they are asked by others to tell how they "feel"
• Annoyed and resentful at those who pressure them to reveal how they "feel"
• Hide behind a mask of "no feelings"
• Fearful of getting into intense discussions on emotional issues
• Resentful for being misunderstood or put down because they do not react emotionally to things, events, or relationships
• Feel proud about their ability to maintain their cool and laid-back stance in the midst of a crisis
• Annoyed at the implication that they have problems because they do not respond emotionally to others
• Annoyed that their rights are being abused, but unsure of what to do about it
• Insecure in the presence of a sharp witted, verbally emotive individual
• Threatened by fear of rejection or loss of approval when confronted with demands of others to "show their true colors"
• Fearful of letting others know how they really feel about things because they are unsure themselves how they feel
• Feelings of inferiority over inability to identify and label feelings in themselves and others
• Feelings of incompetency and discomfort in emotional discussions or conversations

• Low self-esteem
  
• The more unemotional they remain with verbal or emotional people, the more they experience rejection, being ignored, or taken advantage of
  
• They run the risk of developing ulcers, gastrointestinal complaints, high blood pressure, heart disease, and cancer due to unresolved feelings
  
• By denial they can allow situations to get so out of hand that they erupt into major crises or disasters
  
• They absorb so much pain, hurt, and suffering silently that they run the risk of suffering depression, anxiety, and neurotic phobias
  
• They run the risk of medicating their sense of being misunderstood, ignored, and forgotten through abuse of alcohol, drugs, work, food, sex, etc.
  
• Their behavior can drive others in their life to a point of panic, hysteria, over-reaction, or emotional exhaustion
  
• Their mode of interacting can result in a breakdown in interpersonal relationships until they suffer abandonment by the very ones who love them and reach out to them
  
• Their behavior can lead to stubbornness and inflexibility; they can become over-controlling, demanding things be their way or else
  
• They have problems getting help from counselors because they feel under pressure to reveal feelings they are unable to identify
  
• They resent the over-emphasis on emotions and feelings in a "helping" environment and can become resistant, terminating such helping efforts prematurely
  
• They can desire a "status quo," forcing those in the environment to repress all feelings and emotions, creating a high-stress environment where all members are driven to sick behavior
  
• Rigid adherence to their behavior can lead them to a perfectionistic, idealistic view of the world where any feelings shown are considered bad; only calm, peaceful co-existence is considered good
  
• Non-emotional environments can result in fear of conflict and disagreement, ultimately resulting in avoidance of problem-solving
  
• Non-emotional environments can result in a lack of physical intimacy and touching
  
• Open signs of affection and caring are absent, leading to physical distancing between the members
  
• A person with rigid adherence to this behavior role can lead others to feel unwanted, uncared for, not respected, insecure and unaccepted; therefore, lowering their self-esteem
  

IV. Some beliefs of persons in the nonfeeling behavior role

• Being overemotional and/or showing feelings is a sign of sickness, instability, weakness, or hysteria.
• The healthy person is calm, cool, and collected.
• Too much fuss is made about feelings and emotions.
• People who are always expressing how they feel lack the logic and sense to solve problems.
• It is not how you feel that solves a problem; it is what the logical, researched facts are that solve the problem
• It is the content of a problem or an issue, not the feelings that are important.
• All this touchy-feely stuff is crap!
• What are they talking about, "I don't have feelings." I have feelings. I just can't put words on them.
• It is not how I feel, but what I think that is important.
• There is no need to get emotional over everything.
• Keep a stiff upper lip.
• Be strong and keep it in.
• You don't help anybody by hanging your dirty laundry out to dry.
• You must keep your cool in any crisis, disaster, or loss because if you don't you are bound to overreact, thereby appearing weak.
• You will never catch me crying in public.
• There is nothing wrong with keeping things calm, peaceful, and placid.
• Even-tempered and laid-back, is the only way to be.
• There is no reason to get outside help for our problems.
• We should be able to solve our problems easily and in an organized, systematic way with little fuss or turmoil.
• All counselors, support groups and emotional discussions are crap!

V. Turning negative nonfeeling behavior into positive potential