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Effective Communications

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Responding Communications

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Need to Control

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Mirror Work

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Healthy Boundaries

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P-Pathfinder Principles

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Welcome to our personalized website! In January 2008 we sold Coping.org to Design Media and in January 2009 Design Media placed over 100 of our articles on Livestrong.com. As a result of this move the Tools for Coping Series as books were not longer online. We now have uploaded all of the books here on this site and linked with the articles which are on Livestrong.com as well as uploaded articles which were not transferred to Livestrong. This new site allows us to continue to add to our online self-help library. We will be adding new materials which are part of our current work and volunteer lives. We hope you enjoy the format of this site. Thanks for joining us! 
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    New Home of The Tools for Coping Series (formerly on coping.org)
    For Adults:
    • Tools for Coping Series
    • The SEA's Program
    • Laying the Foundation
    • Tools for Handling Loss
    • Tools for Personal Growth
    • Tools for Relationships
    • Tools for Communication
    • Tools for Anger Work-Out
    • Tools for Handling Control Issues
    • Growing Down: Tools for Healing the Inner Child
    • Tools for a Balanced Lifestyle 
    • Tools for Victorious Living

    For Parents:

    • Parenting Pathfinders: Tools for Raising Responsible Children
    • Childhood Disabilities: Early Identification and Intervention
    • Tools for Parents of Children with Disabilities and Special Needs
    • Exceptional Education: Getting Parents Involved
    • I AM A GOOD STUDENT - A Study Skills Program

    Additional Topics on this Website:

    Coping in Tough Times

    • Resilience in Tough Times
    • Coping with Stress in Tough Times
    • The Use of Psychological First Aid with People Facing Tough Times
    • Chasing the Depression Blues Away
    • Spirituality Needs in Facing Tough Times
    • Compassion Fatigue when Helping People Deal with Tough Times

    Focus on the Military

    • Impact of Deployment on Service Members and Their Families
    • Online Support for Military Families
    • Resilience in Tough Times
    • Compassion Fatigue
    Recovery from Disasters
    • Personal Perspective After Hurricane Katrina
    • Volunteers' Log of Two Weeks Post Katrina in New Orleans Dec 2005
    • A Survivor's Story from New Orleans Post Katrina
    • Hurricane Preparedness
    • Maintaining Resilience in Tough Times
    • Psychological First Aid with People Facing Tough Times
    • Spirituality Needs in Facing Tough Times
    • Compassion Fatigue When Dealing with People Facing Tough Times
    • Resources for Mental Health Work with Haitian Earthquake Survivors 

    Leadership Training

    • Leadership Training

    Legacy Work

    • Sharing Your Legacy
    • Tools for Handling Loss

    Inner Child Healing Work

    • Inner Child Healing

    Multicultural Competency

    • Why the Need for Multicultural Competentices?
    • Cultural Immersion
    • Multicultural Competency Self-Assessment
    • Multicultural Resources
    • Resources for Mental Health Work with Haitian Earthquake Survivors 

    Critical Thinking

    • Overview of Critical Thinking
    • Fallacies
    • Online Resources for Critical Thinking

    Scholarly Writing

    • APA Style and Scholarly Writing
    • Tips on Improving Technical Writing

    Behavioral Health

    • Cancer Survivorship
    • Coping with a Bleeding Disorder

    Family Related

    • Paulette Messina Scafetta Memorial Site
    • Signature Recipes
    • Photo Albums
     

    Words of Commitment to Do One’s Best-Words to Live By

    “I just want to say one thing. To the fans and everybody in Gator Nation, I’m sorry, extremely sorry. You know we were hoping for an undefeated season. That was my goal, something Florida has never done here. But I promise you one thing. A lot of good will come out of this! You have never seen any player in the entire country play as hard as I will play the rest of the season. And you’ll never see someone push the rest of the team as hard as I will push everybody the rest of the season. And you’ll never see a team play harder than we will the rest of the season. God bless.”Tim Tebow, September 27, 2008
    Following UF’s 31-30 loss against Ole Miss

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